Sunday, November 8, 2009

The Dating Conversation

It's been over a year. I'm getting out and about in the world. So, I thought it would only be right to post my thoughts on dating.

A. I'm going to be the best damn girlfriend/wife ever if I ever do start dating again, because I know how incredibly special and incredible love can be. I know not to argue or stress over the stupid stuff. Who cares about the dishes? Who cares about what television show got recorded? i know how love can be. I am going to rock as a girl friend/wife.

B. But because I am going to rock, he is going to have to be beyond rocking.
1. He is going to have to be the best looking, sexiest man out ever.
2. He is going to have to be ridiculously rich. I'm not going to worry about money anymore.
3. He's going to have to treat me like a princess
4. He will cook and clean. Or understand that I will not.
5. He has to love Jesus deeply, and understand being hurt and confused, but still have his feet planted firmly in his Faith.

Yep, if it ever happens, I'm going to be pretty selfish.

Honestly, though, if a boy ever approached me, I would have no idea what to do. Just like a little school girl. I talk a big game, but I would freak out in real life. I joked at work that all I wanted for my birthday was a gigolo, (being lonely and all) but if someone even held my hand in real life, I would probably start sobbing. Oh, I'm going to be an awesome date!


Anonymous said...

I understand and feel the same way. It's been nearly 2 years since my husband's death and I still have no interest in dating. I figure, I already had the perfect guy. I only wish I knew all the things not to sweat about when he was still around... I think I was an awesome girlfriend, then fiancee, then wife, but now I could be so much better because I understand so much more. Sucks how that works, doesn't it?

Brittany said...

Would you please get out of my head and stop posting things that I am thinking about!!! :)

Seriously, though, I'm right there with you. And, I am ready to date and love again.
The question is, is there a guy ready for ME?!

jasonandbonnie said...

You are the best! I love your list, stick to it!

The Widower Dad said...

It's uncanny how parrallel our experiences are, but I know exactly what you mean. Months ago I envisioned a God fearing woman my age with no kids (cause of my adopted daughter) that would understand and respect my grief to be the next suitable candidate. No exceptions.

The woman I'm currently seeing makes me feel whole again, and she meets only one of my requirements...she loves God. We joke that we could be the Brady bunch some day, IF I find the courage to ever get married again. I'm just starting to venture out into the land of couples again...I'll have to wait to see what all comes my way.

I hope someone comes along that softens your heart in ways you could never expect. Someone that will respect your grief journey and provide you with the contrast to balance it all out.

~Dawn~ said...

I am in awe if what you wrote in section "A". As a woman who is quickly approaching married life, it really hit a chord with me. I don't think anyone could have said it better than you just did. It has made me step back and realize what kind of wife I want to be and how I hope that my husband has the same hopes for himself. I already "don't sweat the small stuff" and try my hardest to not fight over the petty stuff etc.. And now this post really did it for me. I feel like I have a 'second' chance to not have to worry about a 'second' chance. if that makes any sense.