Sunday, September 6, 2009


Facebook just added "widowed" to their status.

A few months ago I was all offended that Facebook didn't have this as an option.

Now, what do I do?

If I change it, it's so It will put my sister in law in a crisis. She hates to hear me use that word.

If I don't change it...ahh, nothing will happen. But people will know. Then what happens when a long lost friend looks at my status, sees married and makes a comment about that...oh crap-o-la.

**At church today, they sang How Great Is Our God. I remember singing and praying the words to this song as loud as I could in my car the day I heard my friend B was losing her precious baby. Now, I refuse to sing it. But in church today I almost heard HeeJun whisper to me, "Sing with me...How Great is Our God. Sing with me! Sing with me!" He knows. **


Split-Second Single Father said...

I did not join Facebook until I had been widowed for over 2 years, which made it easier for me to change the status once it (FINALLY!) became available. But I've wondered the same thing. Now that people are starting to realize I'm on there, it's only a matter of time before people who don't "know" start to make contact. Do I really want to have to explain this again? And will I be angry that they didn't know already somehow?

Good luck with whatever decision you make.

Supa Dupa Fresh said...

Hey there,

Facebook didn't add "widowed" till after I had remarried, so I'm a total mess! Care about the change a lot, not able to use it.

Are you listed as "single" now?

Maybe I'm weird (DER) but I'd say don't change it. I got a LOT of comments in real life when I changed my status to "engaged" and then "married." Electronic gossip is the juiciest kind, and without context, you never know what kind of response you'll get.

Whatever you feel comfortable with is best.



Steven and Candi Manning said...

Isn't it weird (but amazing) when you hear those sweet whispers and just for a minute you let yourself believe that they're standing beside you?